I would again like to delve into a this hot topic.
Oftentimes my Chinese friends will ask me 外国男的和中国男的有什么不同？ And the correct answer is, well there's not really that much that is different at the heart of we human species. But, okay, you can make long lists of differences that would inculcate cultural and historic differences that serve to produce the types of men commonly seen in America versus the kinds of men produced in China, but fundamentally, there is absolutely nothing different. I hear all the stereotypes: American men are big and tall and strong and confident and hygienic while Chinese men are often shorter and less confident, etc. We all know these differences exist, and so why harp on them any longer?
But deep down, there truly are no differences. The devotion to family and home-ownership exists in both cultures. 对中国人来说结婚是一辈子的事． 那当然． 外国人也有同一的概念． Let's just cut the crap conversation and move on?
We are interested in each other because we are shallow beings who are fascinated. Our innate desire for copulation and our animalistc urges are what provoke us in everything we do in life. Relationships occur between foreigners and Chinese people - just watch the movies and look in magazines or at billboards and you will see all sorts of mixed couples. Who is that hot girl that Jay Chou poses with? How does a pretty white female find males with whom she can mate so that she does not have to settle for the busy-body foreign boy who's either clueless and speaks no Chinese, or if he does speak Chinese and is smart and reliable, then DUH, inevitably he will be like myself and looking for a Chinese femme. No matter, we Western females will live up to our stereotypes of being very 开朗 and 独立 when mainly we're wondering where the Oxford graduates are who are returning to their home countries. Not quite.
Another fallacy - Western girls do not care about money the way Chinese girls do. Utter bullshit. Of course Westerners care about money - we spawned capitalism. We LOVE money and wealth and riches. Look at where we hang out when we go out...look at foreigner-concentrated areas in Beijing...they're all expensive places. Of course, we will remain modest with our spending and expectations, but, yes, I'm sorry, but foreigners do like and intend on having a pretty nice living situation, especially as age and time trickle on and the gust and zeal for living in wild China wears to halt.
He or she can go back to the Upper East side of Manhattan or their plantation in the Southeast or where ever he or she hails from and no matter what, that person will live just as comfortable a life as a successful person from an underdeveloped country. This is a difference between development and "non-development," and boy is Beijing developing. I myself make peanuts. In the meantime, I need to get out of Beijing and breathe.
Take in the air.
Take on a humanitarian project in the countryside.
So long. So lonesome.